Connecting points

As most parents will attest that parenting a child from the time of birth into their teenage years will require different approaches. As your child matures into his/her teenage years, most of them will have a natural sense of assertion, decision-making, independence. How do you connect with your teenage children to maintain that close relationship? Have a read and share with your children.

Teens today are being bombarded with mixed messages. Often, culture is telling them one thing while their parents are telling them another. As parents, we want to help them through these trying, confusing times. But what is the best way to do it? Author Josh McDowell encourages parents to focus on what he calls three key “connecting points” in our relationship with teenagers.

Point number one is affirmation. Let your children know that you understand their struggles. Ask them: “How are you doing today? What’s going on in your world?”, and then listen.

Point two is acceptance. Make sure your children know that you love them unconditionally, no matter what. Accept them for who they are, not how they perform.

Point three is appreciation. Look for ways to express and tell them how proud you are to be their parent. Encourage them by saying: “You did a great job on that,” or “Good effort! You’ll get it next time”.

These connecting points are critical elements to a good relationship with our teens.

(FOCUS ON THE FAMILY by Dr Bill Maier)


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